The bible made it clear that two cannot walk together if they are not in agreement. A man and a woman can only enjoy their marriage and leave in peace if only they agree in one thing “UNCONDITIONAL LOVE” i.e. being there for each other always.
In the days of our parents, our mothers do call our fathers “My lord” and our fathers call our mothers lovely pet names, but today 80% of couples call themselves by their names after one two years in marriage. The love in marriage should be new every day, it should not fade. My question is what happened to that burning love that you felt the first day you met, where is the LOVE?
My research made me to understand that there are AGENTS responsible to silent love in marriages. I call these agents “MARRIAGE DESTROYER”. Today, I will be looking at the six agents that silent Love in marriages and tear homes apart.
• ANGER: It is a strong and sometimes violent feeling of displeasures. Proverbs 27:4 says “Wrath is cruel and anger is outrageous, but who is able to stand before envy?” Anger or wrath gives birth to jealousy or envy and envy causes or brings destruction in a home. Beware!
Any man or woman that gets angry easily and act when angry cannot have a happy home. It will always be one day in one day out. The moment Satan finds out, he will always use it against you. Be wise!!
It means for one to be determined in an unreasonable degree with a strong will. Nothing good can come out of stubbornness; it only makes one look foolish and unreasonable. Stubbornness doesn’t give room for submissiveness and obedience which is the key to Love. When you want to prove something out of nothing. In doing that you would not know when you create a gap in your marriage. Stubbornness doesn’t pay, it only makes one look stupid and unloving. If you really want to enjoy your marriage, do away with “why should I do that” in your marriage.
• PRIDE/EGO CENTRIC:
It is a feeling of satisfaction or pleasure in oneself. Thinking only about oneself rather than about other people. The moment you start seeing yourself more superior to your spouse, know it that PRIDE has stepped in and your marriage is at risk. Your egocentric will make you not to care for your spouse well-being. Your spouse words and ideas will no longer count. There is one I call Crocodile Pride, it is hidden and its very deadly, if you are not careful you wouldn’t know you have it until it destroys your joy, happiness and finally tear your home apart.
• SEXUAL INTERCOURSE
It is a meeting of sexual organs of a man and a woman. 1 Cor. 7:3-5 says, Ä man should fulfil his duty as a husband and a woman should fulfil her duty as a wife and each should satisfy the other’s needs. A wife is not the master of her body but her husband is. In the same way a husband is not the master of his body but his wife. Doo not deny yourselves to each other unless you first agree to do so for a while in other to spend your time in prayers, but then resume normal marital relationship; in this way you will be kept from giving in to Satan’s temptations because of lack of self-control. The Bible says it all, the moment there is a gap in your sexual life, the marriage will no longer be HONEY, if there is no sexual feelings between you and your spouse when together; not always but at list most times when you are alone, then something is wrong. If by any chance you have lost your sexual urge, call me on any of the numbers below or pick a date when to see me for counselling and you will have your fun back.
To annoy or try to persuade someone by continuously finding fault and complaining. The moment you start finding fault and complaining at any little mistake of your spouse, the next thing that will step in is comparison and that will create a very big gap in the home.
On no account should a man/woman compare his/her spouse with another person. There can only be one you! Comparison makes you look at your spouse as inferior and that is a very big sin that can hinder your blessings. Your husband is your HERO; your wife is your TREASURE. Find love and strengthen in his/her weakness.
Not being able to produce young ones. When God saw how lonely Adam was, God said; “let Me create a help-meat for him, to keep him company. God did not say let me create a baby making machine. Not being able to have a child should not bring about hatred and violent in a home. African men have made it (Child bearing) as a number one reason for getting married. Get rid of no child no love attitude and make your home a paradise.
Keep a date with me next week as we will be discussing on the topic “UNDERSTANDING YOUR SPOUSE”. Remember never to give-up until you become a Champion.
For prayer and Counselling call Pastor Rita O. Godfrey on 08034337095 or 09093217960.